I have a tendency to want to be seen and rewarded for my efforts. I struggle with comparison and thinking I need recognition. When I’m busy striving for greatness, I forget where my worth comes from. (Whoa! No easing into this post!) Theses tendencies come out when I’m not implementing a morning routine.
Jesse has a tendency to work too much. He struggles with FOMO and that jeopardizes boundaries we’ve set for our life. We both have a tendency to want to be right. We have strong personalities and sometimes lack patience and grace.
YIKES! We’re a mess. True story.
And, it gets soooo much messier when we let these things fester and dictate our days and rule our life. When left to their own devices, these flaws have the potential to wreak havoc in our business and marriage. We’ve been there and done that and have no desire to go back.
That’s why we have a morning routine. That’s why, even though for years Jesse was a self-proclaimed night owl, he decided to read The Miracle Morning and give it a whirl. Guys, my husband used to lay in bed until 9:30am, now he wakes up before 6am!
But, it’s not about being a morning person. It’s about how being a morning person, how taking charge of your mindset before the sun comes up and filling every ounce of your being with truth instead of lies, it’s about how that sets you up for gratefully and peacefully watching the beautiful sunset at the day’s end.
“By implementing a morning routine, you’re choosing to set the tone for your day. You’re making a decision about how you will respond, think, speak, act, work, love, etc. You are no longer reacting to the world but intentionally living out who you want to be as an entrepreneur, a spouse, a friend.”
We all know that being an entrepreneur can be a tough gig. Same goes for being married. (If you’re reading this and you’re not married, no biggie, this totally applies to having any kind of relationship with another human being!)
A couple years ago, I made a quick video talking about the morning routine that will change your life. But, today, I want to share with you how having a morning routine transforms our business + marriage and, if you’re up for the challenge, how we know it can transform your business, marriage, ___________ (whatever you’d like to improve), too.
This is what our life (business + marriage included!) looks like…
When we don’t start the day with our morning routine:
- We are quick to argue, because we both feel entitled to being right.
- We feel like ships passing in the night…like roommates who work in the same house.
- We are impatient with each other and easily irritable because we’re busy with our own projects.
- We are easily distracted and our productivity suffers.
- We feel rushed to accomplish tasks and stressed out that there’s so much to do.
- We feel disconnected and overwhelmed.
- We complain, feel jealous and are easily angered.
- We lack purpose and clarity.
- We are quick to react and judge.
When we do start the day with our morning routine:
- We feel closer to Jesus, like we are seeking him and his will for our life.
- We are on the same page with each other.
- We support each other.
- We are more focused and determined.
- We persevere more easily and react less emotionally.
- We are confident in our business decisions.
- We mind our own business, paying attention to our next move, not everyone else’s.
- We feel inspired in our work.
- We feel inspired to do nice things for each other.
- We listen to each other.
- We make things happen quickly and smoothly with our business.
The difference is night and day. It’s like, “Duh! Do your morning routine, guys!”
Curious what these morning routines look like? We got most of this from the book The Miracle Morning…
This is what our morning routines look like…
Jesse’s morning routine:
- 5 minutes of prayer/meditation
- 5 minutes of affirmations/visualization (includes reading his monthly goals)
- 20 minutes of reading (usually a business book or the Bible)
- 15 minutes of journaling (writing out thoughts and little pieces that could someday be compiled into a more substantial piece)
My morning routine:
- 5 minutes of prayer/meditation
- 5 minutes of affirmations/visualization (includes reading my monthly goals)
- 20 minutes of reading (currently reading + LOVING Uninvited by Lysa TerKeurst)
- One hour of writing (working on my book)
Our morning routine, together:
- Make + eat breakfast. Jesse usually makes the eggs. I usually “make” the coffee (aka: Pulling the handle down on the Keurig and adding lots of creamer to the mug.)
- Read the Bible + pray together.
- Talk about what we’re grateful for.
- Exercise (usually later in the day as a work break)
Do we do all of this every single day? Nope. Is it glaringly obvious when we skip our morning routines? Yep! More than anything, for us, our morning routine is a guideline for helping us be the best we can be for our clients, for our audience, for each other, for our families, for our friends, for everything we do.
And, when we’re operating as close to 100% as humanly possible, in all these categories, we know that’s when we are living out who God has created us to be. That’s when we become increasingly aware of all he is and is doing in our lives.
It’s easy to let our icky tendencies take over. It’s easy to make excuses and say, “Ah, well, that’s just me.” It takes effort and discipline to wake up every morning and choose to be the best you. But, life, business, marriage, all of it, is so much more rewarding when you do.
Do you have a morning routine? Can you tell a difference in the days you implement it and when you don’t? Let us know in the comments below if you’re ready to give a morning routine a whirl and/or if it’s time to dust it off and bring it back to life and serve it up strong with your morning coffee.